The Mom Behind the Blog

 

Hello!
To begin with my name is Ashley Nicole. I was born May 28, 1990. I have spent almost all my life here in Iowa. I have four beautiful, special children. Brayden, who was born with Chiari Malformation and autism, Andrew, who was born with a Congenital Heart Disease called Hypoplastic Left Heart Syndrome, Nevaeh who is perfectly healthy, and Jaxon, who was born with Congenital Scoliosis and missing four ribs. All of this is due to having a small quirk in my DNA, nothing I could of done to prevent it. We’ve had to go see a genetics speciallist to do tests and confirm this. I know most of you are thinking “Holy cows that’s horribly unlucky! Why do you keep having children?!” Well, usually people don’t have multiple children with such extreme disorders. My daughter is the only one without any issues. I didn’t think three out of four children would have any problems. My oldest has had brain surgery to help him, Andrew has had eight open heart surgeries, along with GI (stomach surgeries). He also has had a pace maker put in him, a mechanical valve, and a G-Tube placed in him. All which he still currently has at the age of 5. Nevaeh is perfectly healthy with no complications. My youngest, Jaxon is little over six months old and we just recently learned about his scoliosis and missing ribs. Luckily, he won’t be needing any surgeries or anything. Right now, we are just watching him as he grows. I am also going to a specialist right now because I am expecting my fifth child in April.

My oldest son lives with his father, Andrew and Nevaeh have been adopted by another family, which is a whole other story that I share in my blog, and right now I am currently fighting to get my youngest, Jaxon back home, which was yet another story I share at another time. DHS got involved due to unfortinate events, not bad parenting. Don’t get it twisted. Anyone who knows me knows my babies were taken care of.

Most of my life has been full of unfortinate events reallys when you stand back and take a real good look at it. Learned what death was at an early age when I found my grandmother dead, learned the man who raised me and I knew as my dad, really wasn’t my biological father. Just to be his owned by him later due to my sexuality. I met my biological father at 18 and have a strong relationship with him today. I have been sexually abused by family and others. I been in foster care because of my mom’s own issues. I was always good in school and graduated in 2008, a year early. Been working since I was 16 and paid for my own bills. Had my own place by 18. Had my first kid at 19. I have been that parent who’s almost lost her baby, more times than I like to admit. I’ve been abused and beaten by an ex-boyfriend.

It all hasn’t been bad though. I have finally found my perfect match. Actually didn’t have to find him, we went to high school together. We have been together for over a year now and I couldn’t be any happier, well minus my situation with my children. I’ve never been treated better.  He’s what a real man should be. Responsible, hard working, has manners, and not out here running the streets and doing drugs like everyone else.

I decided to do this blog for two reasons. First reason is simply for myself. I don’t feel like I have anything I need to prove to anyone, but it would be nice to finally get everything off my chest. Then maybe my peers will finally understand me a little more. Plus on top of that maybe there is someone out there who’s been in my shoes when it comes to being targeted by DHS and has some advice. Secondly, maybe there’s someone out there who is going through some of the stuff I been through and can relate to what I have to say. Learn from it. I realize there’s going to be people out there who don’t like or agree with what I have to say, but it is what it is. I got nothing to hide. Nothing I’d lie about. This is my tell all about my life through my eyes.